So I shared this meme from Mum of Boys and Mabel on my own personal Facebook page last week and though it was hilarious because it is so true! It got me thinking about what we did when we started the lockdown homeschooling and how we do it now. So I thought I would share this lighthearted post comparing my expectations vs reality!
Expectation: Operating to my perfectly planned timetable
Reality: Yes, this one was bound to fail before we got very far! Nothing is going to run to time when you have an 8 year old and a 1 year old in tow. However, I like writing lists so I thought yup! Structure is what I need. Little did I know that even if you plan the timetable somewhat around the school structure and your toddlers routine, it still will not go to plan.
We had points where Maisie was rushing work, so finishing before the allocated time. We had moments where Arthur just went into complete meltdown and I had to sort him out before I could carry on with helping Maisie with her work.
So now we have ditched the timetable, Maisie mostly uses SeeSaw and completes the tasks that her teachers have set her, mostly in her own time with a break for a snack and lunch. Then if I feel she hasn’t done enough we have some extra worksheets etc. The school are providing a good all round timetable of work, so I feel like she is getting most of what she needs to be.
Expectation: “It’s year 4 work, how hard can it be?”
Reality: ERMMMM the answer to that is , quite bloody hard actually!
I have lost count of the number of times Maisie has come to me to ask me to help her with something and I will say “oh, just a minute love” whilst simultaneously googling whatever it is she has just asked me about to try to not look completely stupid in front of my own kid!
I literally have had to google pretty much everything. Who would of thought with 9 GCSE’s, 3 A Levels and an honours degree I would have forgotten everything!
To be fair some of the methods have changed so that’s gotta be why, right? I am seriously considering taking one of those classes that parents go to to brush up their knowledge.
Expectation: I’m her Mum, I know best and she will listen to me!
Reality: Ha! Where do I start.
The fact is that Maisie is MY daughter. You ask my own Mother and she will tell you about my attitude problem which by all accounts I developed at the age of 4. I carefully crafted my attitude and practised by answering back, being mean to my siblings and just generally pushing to see how far I could get.
Well in true Emma style, Maisie pretty much flat out refuses to listen to me if she is in a mood. The arguments started about school work because she was rushing through it and not paying attention. I kept saying to her typical Mum stuff like “You wouldn’t rush it at school” and the classic “What would your teacher say about that?” Eventually, things built up over a few days and came crashing down in a heated exchange at which she stormed off to her bedroom like I would have done 20 years ago. MUM I HAVE SYMPATHY FOR YOU NOW!!!
All this took place in the first few weeks and now we have definitely settled into a much more relaxed routine. I think I learnt that you know, this is HARD for our children. They know their is a virus and they know that their lives have been tipped upside down. I have learnt to take it easy, do some fun tasks to break up the day for her but most of all try to see this from Maisies point of view. We have definitely found our lockdown homeschooling happy medium so until she goes back to school, I am going to continue how it has been the last few weeks.
Overall it has mostly been a positive experience and I’ve loved doing it 🙂
Have you been lockdown homeschooling? how has it gone and did you have any expectations that haven’t quite matched the reality? Let me know in the comments!