Plus Size and Pregnant: My Birth Story

My first pregnancy and birth in 2011 was a completely different experience to this one. My body has changed so much since then and being plus size and pregnant has been somewhat of a challenge as I documented in my pregnancy diaries. That said, I had quite a positive birth this time and I wanted to share my birth story with you on the blog!

 

Before it began

Throughout my pregnancy, there was concern over the size of our baby. I was initially told that I had been referred to consultant led care because of my BMI, but as the weeks went on it became clear due to the fact that my little girl had been born small (6lb 3oz) at full term, they were concerned for this baby too. I want to point out here that I had no complications throughout my pregnancy relating to my weight. My GDD test came back fine and I didn’t suffer with any sort of pain. I only had regular check ups and scans at the hospital to check whether Arthur was growing properly. From these scans towards the end of my pregnancy, it was identified that Arthur was not progressing in growth as much as they would like. By week 35 he had dropped from the 10th centile to just below the 5th and the doctor made it clear that I would probably have to be induced. At 37 weeks and 2 days I had my final growth scan, Arthur had grown but he was still below the 10th centile, so the Doctor said he recommended that I have an induction as soon as possible.

I just want to say that this was not what I wanted. I had not only heard and read stories about how terrible inductions can be, but I really wanted to go into labour naturally. I had with Maisie and this was what I wanted again. I knew that as my pregnancy was high risk, I wouldn’t be allowed to go to hospital to be induced and then return home, I would have to stay in and this was also a concern for me as I didn’t want to disrupt my 7 year old daughters routine too much and have her worrying because I was in hospital for days on end. I was booked in for my induction on Sunday 4th November. I was told that the hospital would call me when they had a bed available for me to go in.

The Induction

Sunday started as any other would. I got up and had breakfast and then James and I tuned into the Leeds United Match that afternoon. Just as the game was about to kick off my phone rang, it was the Midwife from the hospital, she wasn’t calling me in she was just checking in to tell me that they hadn’t forgotten about me. Around half way through the game, my phone rang again and this time the Midwife said there was a bed for me. We gathered my things and Maisie’s too for her stay at her Grandparent’s for the duration and then my Father in Law picked us up and drove us to the hospital.

I had tried my best to prepare Maisie for the fact that I might be in hospital for a while as I was so sure that I would be one of those unlucky ones whose labour takes days to begin. Leaving her in the car when we arrived at the hospital was really hard as she was really upset. I think she would have found it easier if I’d gone into labour naturally, at least to her then something would be happening and the baby would be on it’s way.

We arrived at around 4pm, found the ward at Pinderfields hospital and I was shown to my bed.  After getting comfortable the Midwife came and explained the process of induction to me. She then left us for a while and went off to get things prepared. Some time later, she returned and congratulated me on how well I had done to not put any weight on during my pregnancy. I rolled my eyes, how annoying! I had only not put any weight on because I’d been so ill throughout! Already the focus was on my weight! I was then asked to lay on the bed whilst I was hooked up to a monitor whilst they checked Arthur to see how he was. It was so strange that once hooked up I started to get small cramps which would build up and go, something I hadn’t had at all throughout my pregnancy, even the midwife asked if that was happening. The monitoring was fine and once I had been on the machine for an hour the midwife came to check my cervix.

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Plus Size and Pregnant: Pregnancy Diary 25 to 37 Weeks!

So as most of you may know, I’ve already had my baby! But I continued to update my plus size and pregnant: pregnancy diary but I just never got around to posting it on my blog because Arthur was born at just under 38 weeks. So here is the last part of my pregnancy diary!

25 and 26 Weeks

In my last pregnancy diary, I talked about my struggle with morning sickness. It’s not getting much better and I’m currently signed off work with Hyperemesis. It can be such a debilitating illness during pregnancy and to be honest I’m really struggling. I think the worst thing about it is that if you haven’t had it, you cannot relate! Like the feeling of nausea is so overwhelming and you literally have to lay still otherwise you feel like you might pass out. That coupled with vomiting over 6 times a day is just the worst and I’ve been constantly worried about not being at work. I think for most women, this can go away as you reach the second trimester but unfortunately not in my case. Fortunately I know I haven’t had it as bad as some women can, so I’m feeling slightly blessed!

I haven’t seen the midwife or consultant for a while but next week I have a scan and am also seeing my midwife so hopefully everything will be ok!

27 Weeks

I had 3 medical appointments at 27 weeks after not having many recently. When it is your second pregnancy you don’t see the Midwife as often as with your first for some reason.

The first appointment was to have my gestational diabetes test. It’s a 3 hour test and you have to fast from 10.30pm the night before. I haven’t been eating the best due to the Hyperemesis but managed to have some noodles before going to bed. I woke up feeling horrendous, but managed to get myself looking presentable and out the door for 8am. I was waiting outside for my father in law to pick me up and was throwing up down the drain. I was so bad I thought I wouldn’t be able to complete the test. I arrived at the hospital and I just knew it would be a farse! They struggled to take my first set of bloods and left both my arms in bits after like 6 attempts in several veins. Once the first set of bloods were taken, I had to drink this very sugary drink, basically flat Lucozade and then sit in the waiting room for 2 and a half hours or so and have my blood taken again. I felt horrendous for like the first hour, but I managed to keep the drink down as I didn’t want to have to come back another time for the test.

When it was finally time to go and have my blood taken again, I had to tell them to try and take it from somewhere else as where they had poked around before was so bruised and sore. After several attempts, they had to call a Midwife in to take the blood and she found a different vein and got it straight away which was a relief.

My results came back all clear which was awesome!

I also went for a growth scan this week. I was soooo excited because we were desperate to find out the sex of our baby. However, this did not quite go to plan! As I walked in I asked the sonographer straight away if she could tell me the sex and she abruptly refused as it was not policy to reveal that information after 20 weeks. I was so upset, but managed to keep it together for the scan. I asked at the end if everything was ok with the baby and the sonographer again was so abrupt and said the Doctor would discuss things with me.

I went in to see the Doctor, who told me that everything was fine with the baby, but they were worried about the femur measurement as it had not grow as much as expected. She reassured me that the other measurements had progressed fine and they were not worried about anything but they wanted to book me in for another scan in two weeks time to check progress.

I also saw my midwife this week, had my 28 week bloods checked and discussed feeding options etc

28 Weeks

After not being able to find out the sex of our baby at our last scan, James and I decided to book a private gender scan. We looked online and found a company called Ultrasound Direct and booked their Gender Scan which cost £39. After having such negative experiences with my NHS scans, I was so worried that they wouldn’t be able to tell us the gender or even see it because of my BMI.

We arrived and waited anxiously, within 2 minutes of being scanned the sonographer was able to tell us the gender of our baby. I felt so calm and relaxed for the first time in a long time when having something like this done. We were delighted! We even got a 4D preview included, which was slightly weird to see on the screen.

I would definitely recommend Ultrasound Direct of you are looking to have a private scan. They offer so many different options and have various locations around the UK so if you are thinking about booking one definitely check them out. Anyway, you all now know we had a boy!!! James and Maisie were right!

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Plus Size and Pregnant – Pregnancy Diary 13-24 weeks

Welcome to another post in my plus size and pregnant segment, where i talk about all things to do with my pregnancy. I know it’s been quite a while since my last update, but I’ve really been suffering! But I’m back today to update you on my pregnancy once again. If you missed my first update, you can read it by clicking here!

13 Weeks

After seeing my baby last week at the scan, I was really apprehensive to go and see the consultant. I had been referred by the midwife because of my BMI or so I assumed. I went along to the appointment and I was so nervous because I thought that i was about to get a lecture about my weight etc as I’ve heard so many stories.

The consultant was lovely. Basically she said to me that she had no idea why I had been referred so early as there were currently no complications with my pregnancy and all my test results so far had been fine. She did however mention that one of the reasons I was referred was because my last baby was small, I needed to be monitored and by this I was slightly confused. When Maisie was born, no one had ever said she was a small baby so this was news to us. I was prescribed a higher dose of folic acid to take for my whole pregnancy, a low dose of aspirin and told to also take a multivitamin. I am really worried about taking the aspirin, as in the leaflet it says that it can cause complications with the baby.

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14 Weeks

I’ve managed to have three days with no sickness this week, which is huge for me. I feel like I’m finally starting to get over it and hopefully soon I will be feeling more like my usual self.

I’ve noticed changes in my skin, I’m not as spotty at the moment but I’m definitely a lot more oily. I’m assuming this is down to me no longer using my products from The Ordinary as i’m not sure how they would affect things with them being exfoliators and if they would pass into the blood or not :/

My little girl is getting excited about becoming a big sister. She is convinced that we are going to have a boy!!

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Plus Size and Pregnant – Pregnancy Diary weeks 9 to 12

As the first post in my Plus Size and Pregnant series, I thought I would share my pregnancy diary from 9 -12 weeks to get you up to date with what’s been happening while we have been keeping the baby a secret 🙂

 

Week 9 

I’m so happy that I’m pregnant, another child in the family is something that James and I have wanted for a while, but I guess it just wasn’t the right time! Now definitely is and we were both really excited when we found out recently!

I’m not going to lie, since I found out that a few weeks ago I have been feeling really ill and vomiting every single day. Some days have been a real struggle. At the moment, I feel a little bit of a failure, my normal daily routine is a bit of a shambles. I’m not keeping up with the housework or spending as much quality time with my family mainly because once I get home from work I’m going to sleep.

I’ve been late to work on occasion due to needing to leave the house later, plus I’ve been going home early meaning I owe so much in flexi time! I made the decision to share my pregnancy at work with my bosses and HR because of the way I have been feeling. So far they have been really supportive even when I’ve had to take a few days off. I would advise that if you are struggling with pregnancy related sickness, that you share what’s going on with your boss. It will be a weight off your shoulders and if you do have to take time off it will not be treated or actioned the same way that other sickness is in the workplace.

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Week 10

I’ve seen the Midwife for my booking appointment. It went well and I was around 10 weeks pregnant at the time. It was at this appointment that I was informed that due to my BMI being high, my pregnancy was classed as high risk and I suddenly started to feel extremely guilty for getting pregnant at my size once I was hearing the risks associated with being overweight. My midwife was lovely, she was extremely supportive and stressed that she was not there to judge me, but that her job was to provide the best care she can for me and my unborn child.The midwife explained that I would most likely have to have consultant led care as well as seeing her and that I would need extra scans to check that everything was ok.

I felt so overwhelmed at this appointment as there is so much to discuss. We went through my medical history, talked about my mental health, migraines and how to cope with stress and anxiety during pregnancy. We also looked at any family history which could cause problems during pregnancy or after the birth. I had blood taken and sent off for testing. I haven’t heard anything back from the Midwife since, so I’m assuming those tests were all clear.  I was also pleased to learn that my blood pressure was normal, so no complications so far. After the appointment, I began to feel better about being plus size and pregnant. I told myself that plenty of women had healthy pregnancies and babies at my size so I just needed to relax.

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Week 11

It was after this appointment that the sickness came back with a vengeance. I had previously been given Cyclizine to control it, but this was no longer helping. After three days of constant nausea and vomiting, I went to see the doctor again and he prescribed me Metoclopromide and signed me off work for two weeks. I was physically and emotionally drained and just needed to rest.I felt like the doctor was not really that understanding, he wrote “Morning Sickness” on my fit note, which to me doesn’t accurately reflect the situation at all. I’ve been experiencing this at all times of the day no matter what I’m doing. It’s so debilitating, it makes me feel so low, like I’m a failure as a wife and mother because I’m struggling to keep it together. Above all I’m sick of being sick. Luckily, I haven’t been as bad as some and am able to keep some fluids down to keep myself hydrated.

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I’ve got some news ….

I’m pregnant!

Wow, it feels so great to finally type that! James and I have wanted to share the news for a few weeks it feels like we’ve known forever (even though we haven’t) but also wanted to wait until we had the first scan to make sure everything was ok!

It’s not my first baby, I already have a 6 year old daughter, but this pregnancy will be very different to my last. Mostly because of my weight, which I know puts me into a certain category as far as midwives and doctors are concerned but I’m not worried, I’m just looking forward to enjoying my pregnancy and meeting our new addition at the end of it.

I wasn’t blogging during my last pregnancy but I’ve got so many ideas to document my pregnancy! Most of my posts will come under “Plus Size and Pregnant” so keep your eyes open for them. Throughout May i’m focusing on the early stages of pregnancy, like when to tell people you’re expecting and how to cope with morning sickness.

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